Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Dad, what do you do for work?

My husband Dennis was in the bedroom last night working on his laptop. He came home from vacation to hundreds of emails and to two huge deadlines, which forced him to bring his work home several nights.

Our eleven-year-old son was lying on the bed, propped up on his elbows.

“Dad, what do you do for work?”

A long explanation ensued. My husband is in recruiting, but as a manager, there’s this whole world of traveling for meetings, making presentations, and being involved in the recruiting community. He loves his work, and he works hard.

“Oh,” he sighed. “I just hope you don’t become like those dads who have a high-level job but are never home.”

Oh, my precious son. You have no idea.

I’m sure you have no idea how hard it is for your dad to balance being the sole income provider for this family...

…with being the single most important man in the lives of five children.

You have no idea how hard it is for him to turn off the work to-do list in his head so he can ask you about your day over supper.

You have no idea how often he has gotten out his computer after you’ve gone to bed so he could tuck you in first.

You have no idea how many jobs he has turned down so he could have one that allows him to be home more.

But some day I hope you will.

Some day I hope you will be a man who makes decisions about work that consider more than just the size of the paycheck he can bring home.

I hope you will be a man who works hard but knows when the day is through.

I hope you will be a man who pursues his wife and children with as much intensity and passion as he does his career.

And I hope you will be a man who reserves energy at the end of the work day to talk about the stuff of life with his son.

I hope, and I pray, that you will be a man…

...just like your dad.

A wise son makes a father glad.
Proverbs 15:20

9 comments:

Joy said...

Tears rolling down my face. This is so beautiful. Yes, if only they could see all the sacrifices these wonderful men give on a daily basis.

Let us never forget to honor these men who so willingly give to us and our children.
Blessings!

JennG said...

That was beautifully written. Wow! I can't imagine all that entails with raising a son but it appears that you guys are doing an incredible job. I'm reminded (again) to get on my knees and thank God for bringing such an incredible man into my life and for being such a great father. It sounds like you have been equally blessed!!

Lari said...

What a beautiful legacy for a father to give his son! At our previous church dh was able to work from home and we had a lot of family time. With his new position he keeps more traditional hours...my 7 yo, then 4, just didn't understand why dad kept having to leave for work...AGAIN! It's wonderful to have such a great role model for them.

chelle said...

What an awesome post! It made me melt and go all gushy and read it to my husband! He only response ... "5!?!?!?!" hehe

Jen said...

That is perfect.......how great. Keep telling him this and praying for this and it will happen.
jen

Susanne said...

I'll be right back. I need to get some kleenex. Ok, I think it's under control now. That was absolutely beautiful. How rare is the man who knows that balance in today's world. And to "pursue his family with just as much passion as his career" just about did my heart in. I've never heard it put like that before.

Everyday Mommy said...

Oh, cheese! Now I'm crying...again!

Jennifer said...

Oh, this was very touching. I often wish for a husband who was home at 5:20, after leaving work at 5pm when the whistle blew, after having arrived at work at 8:00am after eating breakfast with the family, kissing us all and heading out the door at 7:30am.

That's not how our life is. He has a demanding job (but one he does usually enjoy--he's tried easier, and didn't like it). He has an hour commute. He is usually home by 7pm, so we can all eat dinner together. So that he can insure this, he wakes up really really early and gets some good work in the morning (and he loves his sleep). He never works weekends, and he takes time off when he needs to and for fun.

I hope that he knows that we appreciate the sacrifice and support him in all he does and would give everything up in a minute if he found a 9 - 5 job that he loved just as much as his "important" one.

Robin said...

I am so enjoying spending time with you this morning; bouncing around and reading a post here and there. This is beautiful. Your precious son stands a great probability of ending up like his dad because THIS is what he KNOWS to be his "normal", his standard, his point of reference.

For my future daughter-in-laws (and that's a looong way off!), I pray that their husbands will treat them as well as mine has :).