The flurry of activity this month has really brought into focus my lack of ability to multitask.
I see ladies who manage to serve as
Oh, I’ve done my share of leading things over the years, but probably less than you might think.
I have always considered myself a one-ring circus kind of gal.
My main ring is taking care of my husband and family.
Just keeping the Sanitation Department at bay, and keeping up with the laundry around here is a full-time job. The rest of my day is spent making sure everyone’s fed (and not just eating cereal) and no one’s (seriously) injured.
I look up – the day’s gone.
Adding extra rings to my circus usually means the spotlight is moved off center ring for a while. Things like vacation, VBS, school or community volunteer programs – and even joyous occasions like weddings – all good things – make me temporarily loosen my grip on the “home” ring.
And for short periods this works.
The kitchen floor can withstand an incredible number of spills before crying out to be mopped (might need to take a spatula to those encrusted Cheerios under the high chair, though!). The laundry doesn’t seem to mind being stacked up behind the hamper door. I’m happy to report that the kids are improving at entertaining themselves for quite long periods without injuring each other.
But we all feel so much better when there’s at least one of us around here who’s thinking homeward.
Sometimes I wish there were other, less humble ways to show it, but there is a certain sense of security that comes from opening the drawer and finding clean laundry there. Coming in the door to find someone there, waiting just for you. And coming in the kitchen to smell dinner well underway.
These activities, while individually are not that spectacular, are the building blocks of the memory of home that my kids will take with them when they leave here to create a circus of their own.
That thought makes me very careful about adding any commitment to my life that pulls me away from my main focus. It has vetoed certain job opportunities for my husband. With as many kids as we have, this is no small task. My phone rings constantly, and my inbox is full.
I would even go so far as to say this is a battle.
But it is worth the fight to keep the walls of the home ring secure.
For us, it’s not any one thing that turns a well-directed circus into a free-for-all. And it’s never anything particularly evil. It’s an appointment here, a meeting there, a game tomorrow night, company coming over again. It’s the constant barrage of activity that pulls our focus away from each other and toward someone or something else.
But my focus is heading back to center ring this week. My main attractions need me to put the spotlight back on them. This is going to feel great!
And just in time, too.
School starts in just over two weeks!
She watches over the affairs of her householdProverbs 31.27
and does not eat the bread of idleness.