Monday, July 30, 2007

Setting my course: the compass

When I realized I had to get off the fence and begin to trust God with my family, no angel appeared to me. There were no fireworks or bands playing. It wasn’t even an “aha” moment. In fact, I arrived at that point in resignation more than anything.

Even though I'd trusted God with other areas of my life, I’d gone out on a journey (with my two little guinea pig children!) in search of all of the “world’s” parenting wisdom (and my own efforts). I found they did not have the answer. For someone who was used to holding tight control, it was humbling, yet what a relief, to say to God, “You were right all along. I'm sorry it took me so long to realize it. Please forgive me. I’m home now.”

Shortly after that time, we attended a Sunday school class for parents of preschoolers. This time, when we studied scripture, I was willing to look at it as my complete Source, not merely as good common sense (although there is plenty of that!), or as an adjunct to the latest studies on child development. I was finally willing to look at my child, my husband, my role as a wife - my whole life - from a completely biblical frame of reference (not picking and choosing what I thought would work well toward my agenda). I stopped trying to sit on the fence, blandly blending in with politically correct rhetoric. Like Peter, I finally said to God, "Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life." (John 6:68)

That was ten years ago. It was the beginning of the journey, not the end. Our youngest child is now older than our oldest child was then! I'd be lying if I said we’ve had no bumps in the road. I’ve made lots of mistakes, some of them with consequences I’m still dealing with. I have a lot to learn. But God’s Word has been the compass that brings us back to center. Every. Time.

It is true, it is faithful, it is powerful, it is beautiful, it changes lives, and I can’t get enough of it.

I’m wondering: Do you have a compass that points you in the direction you need to go when you're confused?
Forever, O Lord, Your word is settled in heaven.
Psalm 119:89


Jerusha said...

I've been reading your blog for a few months now and have really enjoyed your Setting My Course series. I have 3 littles under 4 so your thoughts on these matters are wonderful. As for my compass these days.

Hebrews 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.

I must parent my children in faith toward God. Pleasing Him is all that matters. If I walk in faith, trusting Him all the rest does not matter.

Christi said...

Thank you again, Katherine for your honest words on this subject. Every time I read, your writing speaks to me.

Jenn @ Knee-Deep in Munchkin Land said...

Thank you Katherine! Again, wonderful words of wisdom to live by. =) Thank you for sharing this journey with us!

Anonymous said...

I love to call those bumps in the road 'Just Speed bumps'.

I am a survivor of toddlers, preschoolers, elementary kids and science projects, pre-teens and now I just have to hold on tight to my strong developing teenagers and trust that my husband and I laid down sturdy groundwork for our teens to love and laugh in life...

Anonymous said...

Very good post. God is pretty much always nudging me to keep me going in the right direction. I am very thankful for that even though sometimes I don't want to admit I needed the nudge.
Thanks for the post.
All for His glory, ~Rhen

Anonymous said...

My compass is definitely the Word. There are times I buck against the system and try to go with methods of the world. As we deliberate over things and resign ourselves to do what God instructs, we see that His Word yields the best results. (We're not perfect, nor have we arrived yet but we are seeking His desire for our roles in life.)

Mary@notbefore7 said...

As I read through His Word, that is the compass that guides me. I want to lay a strong foundation for my kids in these early years that will carry them as they grow into independent adults. That is the prayer of my own heart. I know HE is in control and I have to trust in Him!

Deidre said...

My compass is the word. What a blessing that class must have been for you (SS class for parents of preschoolers). That is such a great tool God used in your life. Smart church.

Thank you for sharing "Setting My Course". I love every word of those posts. :)

Sarah said...

We are currently going through Reb Bradley's Biblical Insights into Parenting class and oh my goodness, what a huge cloud is lifted when we choose to parent according to God's word as our authority! My degree is in Human Development and Family Studies, so you can emagine the world-sludge that has coated my mind when it comes to discipline and the like. But I am happy to announce that I AM FREE! God's word is now on the throne of our parenting, right where it should be, chastisement (gasp!) and all! It does amuse me how slow we can be to go to the Lord for parenting wisdom when we are so much quicker to go to Him in other areas. I guess the prince of this world knows right where to fight for us, makes you want to put a big bucket of water on his flamy little head doesn't it!