He is talking to men about their wives:
As one psychologist explained, "A man can have the best of intentions to meet his wife's needs, but if he thinks her needs are similar to his own, he will fail miserably." Some of us men really do fail miserably. We're shooting in the dark when it comes to understanding our wives. And it hurts. No wonder so many marriages have fallen on hard times. As a pastor I often hear men boil over and say something like, "I don't know what she wants from me! I can't please her! I knock myself out twelve hours a day to give her everything anyone could ever want, and she still isn't satisfied! What's the deal?"I think the same could be said to women about their husbands, or to mothers about their children. We spend so much time doing things that we think will meet our family's needs, but maybe - if we are honest - we are really meeting our own.
You can meet your wife's wants yet still miss her needs. That's what the deal is. Your wife doesn't need you to work twelve hours a day. More likely, it's you who "needs" to work that much. You're out there trying to find your identity and establish your worth and value. You're out there for you more than for her. What she needs is for you "to live with her in an understanding way ... since she is a woman"! A little feminine understanding can go a long way in meeting your wife's real needs.
As I'm enjoying my couple of "bell ringers" this weekend, I'm asking God to help me arrange my life in such a way that I focus on the important things - the things that have lasting value. Remember: Die to Live.
Won't you do the same?
****Oh, and by the way, I can't say enough wonderful things about Robert Lewis's organization, Men's Fraternity. It is a one-year-long series of studies that "provides men with an encouraging process that teaches them how to live lives of authentic manhood as modeled by Jesus Christ and directed by the Word of God." It has been probably the single best thing my husband Dennis has ever participated in. There are groups all over the country, or you can do like Dennis did at our church: start your own!