Monday, October 29, 2007

Mom thoughts

Every now and then I have to step back from the busy-ness of my daily life and marvel at what is happening before my very eyes. What a unique time I am living in! My older children are becoming capable, interesting, funny, stubborn determined young people with an eye toward driving and college. My youngest child is just out of diapers, and those in the middle are just looking forward to losing more teeth. Sometimes I feel so stretched between these different worlds, I forget how truly beautiful is this crazy thing we call our family.

We had a great weekend. The kids were off school on Friday, and Thursday night we were all home, playing tickle, eating pizza, and enjoying each other’s company. As the older kids get older and we are busier, I find I NEED these times. They feed a deep hunger in my soul to hear my kids laugh and play and have no agenda other than to find Dad’s weak spot (arm pits). I also find these times connect me in a powerful way with my husband Dennis. I find him irresistibly attractive when he’s abandoned to playing with our kids. If he only knew...(or maybe more appropriately, If only we we could ever be alone...!).

Friday everyone went different directions. This is so typical of the differences in ages around here: Neal (12) got to go with his small group to a Switchfoot concert. Allie(14) went to the high school football game with friends, Dennis and Libby (9) went to see a friend’s son play another football game, and the little girls and I spent Friday night watching Meet the Robinsons.

Saturday was perfect. Everyone was home again. The big kids were not happy, but I made everyone get up and go to Libby’s (9) softball game. The sun was warm but the air was crisp and it was a beautiful fall day. Annie(6) made a sign and cheered for Libby. Too bad she was deep into playing with Ruthie and missed her in-field home run. The big kids didn’t, though, and I could see Libby beam when she realized it was her big sister Allie who was cheering the loudest.

After the game we resisted the temptation to go out for lunch. Instead, we came home and ate ham and cheese sandwiches with chips and Cokes. We had a few spills, but most everyone was getting along, the sun was pouring in through the kitchen window, lighting the room like a Norman Rockwell painting, and I bit my lip as I tried to savor the moment. Dennis was in his element, joking around with Allie (14) and Neal (12). Libby (9) was helping Ruthie (3) with her sandwich and sneaking her chips. Annie (6) was imitating all the big kids’ antics with remarkable ease. Most everyone cleared the table, and I only had to repeat myself a few times to get everyone to quit being silly long enough to finish the job.

It's so easy for me to focus on what is going wrong with things in my family. I know each of my children's character issues (and my own) with alarming clarity. We have so much work to do, and much of it is really hard.

But this weekend was just what I needed. Yes, it's loud and messy and imperfect but…it's also really, really fun!

It's uniquely OURS. It's home.

15 comments:

Kathryn said...

That was so well said. Time goes by so quickly, it is so cliche, but so true. It seems that the small things (watching movies with the fam, going to the game) really do mean the most. Just being with each other. Such a blessing having a large family. Thank you for that post.

Ginger@From The Cocoon said...

I know what you mean...as my kids get older and our lives get busier, I find myself longing for the simple nights at home. Thank God for allowing you guys to have that this weekend!

Dawn said...

What sweet things you have to say about your family. It's uplifting to read things like this. Glad you had a great weekend.

Jen said...

Yes..days and weekends like this make us all appreciate how lucky we are and how much we are so blessed. Treasure these times.

chickadee said...

what a lovely post and so true. it's easy to get caught up in doing instead of reflecting. we all need those times of reflection now and then.

emily said...

yayyy Raising Five family!!!

The Chirgwin Family said...

Thank you!!! Wholesome, Quantity time. It's nice to see a peek into where our family is headed.

fAiThFuL cHiCk said...

Now that sounds like a nice weekend!

Ladybug said...

Sounds like the perfect weekend to me!!

Barbie@ Mamaology said...

Sweet Sweet post!!! The messiness of families is what makes us each so unique:)And you have a beautiful one!

Jenn @ Munchkin Land said...

This is EXACTLY how I felt (and still feel) about growing up in my house. With four girls, all two years apart, our house was often chaotic and crazy, but downright fun. Even now, I love the times that we get together. It sounds like a wonderful weekend indeed!

Beck said...

It's hard sometimes to turn off the Mom Voice and just BE with our families, isn't it? Beautifully written.

Terry said...

I don't think I'd know what to do without a little chaos and craziness! It's part of what makes a large family fun, even if I'm sometimes too close to the madness to appreciate it as I should. It's one of the things I love about your blog. My kids were out of school on Friday, too, and though it threw a monkey wrench in my normal routine, it was still fun to have them home during the week.

Andrea said...

I love times like those Katherine. It makes you think "hey, this could really turn out all right!" ;)

Lori - Queen of Dirty Laundry said...

Beautiful. What you wrote is exactly my picture of FAMILY.

It makes everything else worth it.