Monday, November 19, 2007

Minus two - or three?

This weekend Dennis and I had to divide and conquer. He took a couple of the kids out of town with him to visit his brothers, and Neal (12) was invited to spend most of the weekend with his best friend. That left me home home with Allie (14, who was not feeling well) and Ruthie (3). Even though I believe in doing things with "the whole family," in the vein of my Minus One Theory, sometimes it's really special to get one or two alone.

So Ruthie and I made waffles, played pattern blocks, and watched Aristocats together.


Allie and I had a couple of incredible conversations (I hope to share some of them soon).

I pray constantly for opportunities to talk with my kids - about life, about faith, about purity. Sometimes they just "happen," but I'm finding more and more that if I make just a little effort to get my kids alone (or even almost alone, as in our case!) the atmosphere changes and we can share openly.

But for now, more family here - will write more tomorrow!

8 comments:

Terry said...

That's one my biggest challenges- finding time alone with one of mine. And I only have four (though we'll be "raising five" come May!). You're right; it opens the door for meaningful conversation and communication when you can find that one on one time. Great post as usual, Katherine.

Beck said...

It's hard to find the balance between one-on-one time and family time - what a sweet little baker you have.

Susanne said...

I have to intentionally make one- on-one time but make it look casual. If mine get wind that I'm doing it to offically "talk" they tend to clam up but if it's just a fun and conversation comes naturally they are so much more likely to share.

Waffle making with your little one, how fun!

fAiThFuL cHiCk said...

The minus one theory is proven around here when going to church on Sundays. We are on time if we have at least one not with us that morning. Isn't it just crazy?!

Jen said...

The picture of Ruthie is adorable....

Lisa@Take90West said...

Even though you weren't all together, it still sounds like a pretty good weekend!
I need to do better about one on one time.

Jenn @ Munchkin Land said...

Ahhh, I can't wait for those moments with my kiddos. Those heart-to-heart talks that give me a clue as to what's going on inside. =) I'm sure it was a wonderful weekend.

Julie@HighFive! said...

I struggle with the same thing. I'm glad to know there's a term for it....I always feel guilty realizing how quiet it is when even one person is missing. Not that I wish them away....but you know what I mean.

Just having that one-on-one eyeball time is so refresing sometimes....

Great pic!