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As promised, today I am excited to welcome a special guest!
Brenda Nixon is an author, speaker, and parenting expert. She speaks on topics near and dear to my heart, such as potty training, raising confident kids, and helping your children succeed in school (check out her website for a complete list of her books and speaking topics). I've enjoyed getting to know her through blogging, and I think you will, too!
Brenda's made the rounds this month on a whirlwind blog tour (go check out her answers to questions about parenting in the early years the other day at Momma (and More)).
Not sure how I ended up as the last stop, but it's probably a good thing, because here's what Brenda has agreed to do for you, my dear blog friends (I asked if she knew what she was getting into, and I was assured she does!). Brenda has agreed to hang around here this week and take your questions!
So here's what you do:
Submit your most burning parenting questions in the form of a comment below. Brenda has promised to answer them ALL within 48 hours!To get things started, I sent Brenda some questions people have asked me (thinking I'm the expert - yeah right!) since I've been blogging. Here they are:
And here's where it gets good: She will take questions for up to one week!
So you have until next Tuesday, February 5, to submit your question.
I want to make my husband a priority but when he gets home from work the kids attack him! Then, when we try to talk over dinner, they interrupt, and after dinner it's baths and bedtime. By the time the kids are all in bed, he just wants to veg in front of the TV or check email, and I'm too spent to talk or do anything else anyway. Any suggestions for making our evenings go more smoothly?
Good question. I can hear your love for family through your question. Kids need to be taught there are boundaries . . . even on your attention. So, at dinner, you and hubby talk. When/if the kids interrupt, simply instruct them, "It's mommy and daddy's turn to talk. You just listen now." Then go back to your adult conversation. It may take repeated episodes, but do not break down and give your kids attention or enter into any discussion with them, or you've just sabotaged your efforts to have an adult conversation. This will teach them that you have boundaries and also that they can learn social behaviors.
My son and daughter are three years apart (12 and 9). They do not get along, and really never have. They argue over the pettiest things, correct each other, and it just seems like they are constantly looking for an opportunity to fight. It makes me so sad because I feel like there is no hope of them ever becoming friends or for our family to have a meal together that does not end in strife. I know the age difference makes it hard, but I'd appreciate any suggestions on how I can help them learn to get along.
Take heart, age difference has little to do with it. My daughters are 5 years apart and grew up with the typical sibling rivalry and now, as young adults, are friends. There are many reasons kids don't get along and space here restricts my answer. To make it short; ask yourself if it's really a fight, or are they just nit-picking at each other? And ask yourself, if they really do not get along or if you have a high expectation about their relationship? During these years, keep your ears open to verbal aggression that is painful and won't be tolerated, but beyond that, don't interfere. Kids need to work out their own differences and relationship. It could be they will get along better as they mature. Lastly, be a role model of how to negotiate, compromise, and live in harmony. When kids see you as a model of getting along with others (husband, in-laws, neighbors, etc) they will absorb your teaching.
Good stuff, huh?
Okay, so now it's your turn!
Let's welcome Brenda and let her know how much we appreciate all she does helping moms and dads become better parents. You have one week to submit your question, but please submit it as a comment on THIS POST (even if I post on a different topic tomorrow).
I'm looking forward to learning along with you!