Friday, January 11, 2008

Livin' the lie

This week I've been nursing an ear infection (yes, otitis media, and yes, I now know why babies scream when they get it!). I feel like I'm deaf, which I'm not, but I've been yelling nonetheless. CAN YOU HEAR ME??

Through the sludge that is murking inside my head, and in addition to trying to stay on top of normal family life, I've been trying to paint and get the house ready to put on the market. I finished Neal's (13) room and the girls' bathroom. The kids helped me get the game room under control. Tomorrow we were supposed to have our realtor come over to give our home the walk through so she could tell us what what we could expect for an asking price.

I finally called Dennis this morning and told him I give up. At least for this week.

We have accomplished a lot, considering, but, as you know, one mess leads to another, and putting things back together after painting takes about twice as long as the painting did. Maybe three times. Suddenly Neal wants to rearrange his room (a first, what's up with that?), get rid of furniture (which is standing in the hallway) and remove any traces of his babyhood that I may have framed anywhere in his room. The girls, well, let's just say it takes very little to push them over the edge in the messiness department.

Meanwhile, the laundry (which was done, but somehow never got put away) sits piled up, and a layer of dust, which was once comfortably stored under beds and sink cabinets, is now settling on every surface of the house. Not helping the sinus situation. I haven't even begun to tackle closets. Ugh.

I try not to panic, but the thought of selling our house scares the you-know-what out of me. We're supposed to - for an indefinite amount of time - live a lie. We are supposed to somehow fool prospective buyers into thinking we don't really live here. Oh, people want to see our furniture and count the number of kids in the pictures. But they don't want to see the vast mountain of laundry that litters the house every week (how on earth am I going to do it?), the vats I use when I make spaghetti, or the toothpaste crusted on the mirror after seven people brush their teeth.

I remember going to a seminar a long time ago. The speaker's phrase has stuck with me all these years: Fake it till you make it.

The realtor's coming next week instead. I'm so glad. It'll give time for my head to clear, and some time to get geared up for an extended time of faking it.

We can do this, right?

23 comments:

Anonymous said...

I feel for you! Here's hoping your journey through "quick! a client is coming over--stash the mess in the Rubbermaid totes in the closet" is a VERY speedy one and that you don't have to wait too many interminable afternoons at any fast-food establishment playgrounds . . . don't ask how I know these things! :)

Hope you are feeling better soon!

Love,
Roslyn

sonja said...

Hi Katherine
I feel for you, its like the mad run about i used to do before womens bible study was held at my house, I'll pray for you,
see if your kids will remember to put everything back in its home after they use it just for the next few weeks, use this time as a great declutterer too, chuck out what doesnt have a home..sounds drastic but thats what I do all the time, it helps keep my work spaces clear..all the best I will be thinking and praying for you, i read a book that says there is a mental reason for every illness and it says ear infection occurs when you are in too much turmoil..try to relax, remember if God can order the planets to spin at the right time, all the grass to grow all over the world, make our hearts beat regularly and all the other things he organizes simultaneously..he will help us keep our homes in order if we ask..what do you think?

kittyhox said...

We live a lie every time we have company. (No, as a matter, the toddler who lives here does NOT think crackers are for crumbling, rather than eating.)

I can't imagine doing it 24/7 with four more children!

God bless you! Praying for a fast sale, so you can get into your new home and start living like you live there very soon!

Jeffry and Morgan said...

I know exactly how you feel! We are putting our house on the market. I am cleaning my house like crazy this weekend b/c our realtor is coming on *Monday* to take pictures!! I have two boys, ages 5 and 2, and I keep wondering how I am going to keep the trucks, tractors, and trains from overtaking the floor while we have the house on the market. Do they have to see the closets? LoL...that's my only hiding place....

Morgan

Susanne said...

All I can say is "Yikes". But you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Praying you make it real quick so that you don't have to fake it long. ;v)

Family O'Foxes said...

I'm sorry you have an ear infection. Those are the worse!
~Amy

Mrs. Incredible said...

K,

One thing that helps us every time we move is to pack what you can NOW. If you only use the fine china (HA! Do people HAVE that?) at Christmas, it can get boxed up. Select some books to keep out, box the rest. It always amazes me how much stuff we have that we totally do not use on a daily, or weekly, or even monthly basis.

And months from now when the move is done and you open those boxes, it's great fun to see all the stuff you forgot about!

Corey

Brenda said...

Oh, it is hard! I remember all too well. It's like you suddenly don't really live there anymore and yet you dont' live anywhere else either.

Hope your ear feels better soon!

GranolaGirl said...

We put our house on the market when my first child was 3 months old (I know, just once child, but as a first time mom I was frantic). EVERY TIME I left the house it had to be spotless in case someone came while I was out... And do you know who ended up buying our house? The two guys who came with their realtor 3 hours after they said they would... we were home, dirty dishes were in the sink, we were changing Elijah's diaper in the nursery... So, all that frantic cleaning didn't mean a thing.
Good luck! And have fun househunting!

Etta said...

Ugh. I don't envy you at all. I hate moving. In just a few months we will have lived in this house longer than anywhere in our marriage. I'm so glad. Although, it would be nice to have a playroom...and an office...

Debbie said...

We did all that when our 4th child was 3 weeks old, although we did "For Sale by Owner" (which I don't recommend). Everytime hubby showed the house, I had to take the kids for a long ride. It is a stressful time.

Take care of yourself and feel better soon. I will be praying for you.

Jen said...

Our house was for sale by owner for a month and sold to the 8th person who saw it. Here is some advice on showing it.....I packed up things and stored them elsewhere...garage or my mom's house things I didnt use everyday I mean we were planning on moving so go ahead and pack some things....then I cleaned everything from top to bottom..closets.....de clutter them pack stuff up...clean out drawers.....clean out from under beds too. When time to show.....light candles...get some fresh flowers....pull beds down to see sheets......makes it clean like....clean counter tops completely off.....and open blinds....turn on lamps n rooms this makes it homey.....this all worked for me...after the second show I had it down pat......you will make it through....and you will be giving this advice to someone else next year in your new home......fresh flowers.....great idea......

Org Junkie said...

That's my girl, a terrific decision made by a wise woman for the sake of her sanity and her family. Now that's keeping your priorities straight. Well done!

fAiThFuL cHiCk said...

You can do it. Keep candles, Febreze and cookie dough in big supply during this time and you'll do fine. I used to do a 30 minute crazy run through the house when someone came to look at it. Cookies in the oven? Check. Toilets and sinks wiped down? Check. Febreze on every upoholstered surface? Check. Candles lit? Check. Sweat pouring off my forehead? Check!

Feel better!

fAiThFuL cHiCk said...

BTW...The numbing drops the pediatrician gives for babies are WONDERFUL. I used them when I got my first grown-up ear infection.

Brenda on the S OR Coast said...

Oh, don't forget my favorite house-showing maneuver! Grab the baskets of laundry and TAKE THEM WITH YOU in the car! =) This also can be applied to dirty dishes, which can be tossed into a laundry basket or other container and packed out to the car.

It's not a lie... it's a "marketing scheme." [grin]

Totallyscrappy said...

I tell my kids to FAKE IT every morning when they whine that they don't want to go to school. But, somehow that doesn't compare to faking that your family doesn't live there. Haha.
Best of luck and may your house sell quickly.

fullheartandhands mama said...

Ugh! Having your house on the market is no fun, especially when you're sick.

Oh, and as for the laundry, I used to shove it in the dryer or washer and then put the rest (clean or dirty) in a basket and toss it in the trunk of the car. It worked like a charm.

I've been reading your blog for a quite a while and really enjoy it. Feel better soon.

Melody said...

I can't even imagine if I had to keep my house clean for strangers to come in and see it. I can barely get it cleaned for the my family to come in and see and they know how many kids and pets we have. I guess we will just have to stay in our house forever. Good luck on getting everything accomplished.

Jennifer, Snapshot said...

I always looked at those times my house was on the market as a chance to make a new habit. You know how they say it takes 21 days? So maybe after having my house on the market, and putting dishes straight into the dishwasher, and picking up toys, and vacuuming daily, I'd be transformed.

Never happened.

Dimple Queen said...

Sorry you feel so terrible....hope it is better by now, since I am just now getting around to leaving a comment. I have moved so much and hated every minute of having to "keep order at all times" but to be honest, I felt so much better emotionally during that time. The house was "put together" and had a sense of peace to it. However, the first time I only had a 3 month old and the second time the kiddos were 3 1/2 and 1 1/2 so it was a little easier than you and your 5! But I did see some pretty good advice as I scanned through the comments!

I will be praying for you dear sister!

Terry said...

Feel better soon!

julie said...

Hi there,

I haven't been around for a while and just poped over for an update.

I hope you are feeling better soon. I read through your last few posts and I loved the question and answer series about raising a large family. Your answers were great.

Hang in there. Hopefully you will be all better soon.

julie