Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Just say YES!

As a mom, it's just easier to say, "No." And there are times for it.

Let me tell you, between having our house remodeled and having it on the market, I've said No to just about everything that either (a) makes a mess, or (b) takes extended Mommy effort for the past two months.

But sometimes...just sometimes, you owe it to your kids (and to yourself) to say, YES:

When they want to wash the car, even though you know it's freezing, it wastes water and they'll leave streaks on the windows (not to mention, it's going to rain tomorrow).


When they want to bake cookies, all by themselves, even when you know you could do it neater and faster (but probably not much better):


When they want to take a bath with a friend, even when you know it will require twenty-two towels to sop up the mess when they play "Mermaid."When they ask for Fruity Pebbles, even though you know it barely qualifies as "food." And then they insist on "feeling" it as it pours from the box into the bowl.
When they ask for a second piece of ice cream birthday cake (and they offer you one, ever so graciously, even though you know it has a million calories and we are eight weeks from swimsuit season):My kids are only small once, and only under my roof for a short time. I want them to remember that their mom said, "Yes," a lot!

How about you?

18 comments:

Deidre said...

I said 'yes' today to writing on the windows with magic marker (you know that comes off, right?). I said 'yes' to playing outside even when it had been raining for 2 days and I knew they would be head to toe in mud when they were finished. It cracks me up when I say 'yes' and my little ones look at me like I'm not their mother. I need to say 'yes' more often.

Randall said...

No kids for me yet, but my momma is a "yes" sayer. When I was little she let me pick her flowers in the garden, watch my dance routines in the garage, make mud pies on the back porch.

She has a quote framed on her dresser, "The cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow
For children grow up, as I've learned to my sorrow. So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep."

Jenn @ Munchkin Land said...

Yes, yes, yes! I love this! Such a great reminder that its ok for kids to get dirty, to make messes, to enjoy "life". Thanks Katherine! Great post!

fullheartandhands mama said...

Great post! I recently said 'yes' to letting my kids write in chalk all over the swing set. My first thought was 'no way!' But that quickly gave way to "Sure, why no?"

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the reminder. My mom's theory was "why say 'no' when you can say 'yes'". Yikes!! I have a harder time with that. Good job!!
Melanie in OR

julie said...

This is why my house is always a mess. I say yes way to much. However, its more fun to say yes than no. I save no for the important stuff, making a mess I don't worry to much about.

Have a great day,
Julie

Susanne said...

You are such a great mom! Great reminder Katherine!

Org Junkie said...

Love the last picture, it's not your birthday is it?

Becca said...

Good post and good reminder. Sometimes saying yes feels like it will cause delays or as you said make a mess, but the happiness and togetherness will never be forgotten! My kids just love it when as request has been granted!

CPT Mom said...

We just lost a child in our family last week and it has been a constant reminder to say yes more...yes, I will play with you...yes, I will hold you...yes, I will cuddle with you, etc. This life is too short and our time with our little ones is too precious.

What a great post. Do you mind if I link to it on my blog?

Jen said...

You are so right.....I think this is a great post for us mom's who need to know yes is a word that can be used...

Modern June31 said...

What a great post! Thank you for the reminder. I am definitely one of those moms who needs to say yes more and no less. I want my kids to remember all of the fun memories that they had because I let them, not the things that they "missed out" on because it was too messy, time consuming, etc.

Mary said...

I've said no much more often than I've said yes. I hope it's not too late to create better memories.

Marc and Charity said...

I needed this today!!! I have not said yes to my girls lately b/c of the mess it will make or the lack of time I "think" we don't have...ouch. Thanks.

Katrina said...

Good for you! The messy ones are hard for me -- not because I'm a neat freak, but because I'm so lazy about cleaning up as it is! Adding messes only adds to the existing ones. :)

Lori - Queen of Dirty Laundry said...

Oh, Katherine, I'm late to this post, but OH how I need to read it!

I am SO guilty of too many NOs. So thanks for the reminder.

Really.

Janice said...

I honestly hadn't read this before my post today! We must be swirling in the same brain orbit lately!

I keep thinking of you in all of your moving and offers and packing and stuff, and so glad it isn't me..!! :)

Really though, you will be so very OK after you move. I understand the nostalgia and memories from a home feel like you may never "love another" but you will! It is almost like children! Except homes don't marry and move away! We only wish it was that easy! (I only say that now because I have yet to marry off any of my children! )

I am so excited to read your continuing saga of your new home...!

Tami said...

After reading your post, I feel really bad at how much I have said No to my kids. I hope it is not too late to be a "yes mom". Thanks for the reminder.