Thursday, March 05, 2009

Teen small group ideas needed!

Allie-15 and I are meeting with a few of her friends again this week. This was her idea - she wanted to get a little accountability group going. Even here in the Buckle on the Bible Belt, it is often lonely, feeling as if you are the only Christian at school.

Now, all that said, Allie's criteria for groups runs something like this:

1. FUN
2. Something spiritual
3. FUN
4. Something deep
5. FUN
6. FUN
7. FUN

Everyone knows that DAD is the FUN GUY around here, but for some odd reason, she wanted ME to help with this. HUH? I'm trying not to feel the pressure. =)

So anyway, we met last week for the first time. They are good girls. Some of the girls are church-goers. A couple, I have no idea. One, I know, is watching her parents' marriage fall apart. Maybe they realize it, and maybe they don't, but more than anything, all of them need God and each other.

Last week we just talked and got to know each other. We did a few ice breakers that gave each girl a chance to have the floor, and then we talked about what the girls wanted out of the group. They decided they wanted to do a book study, and that they'd take turns leading it. The conversation was easy, and we laughed a lot.

At the end, I asked them how often they wanted to meet. "Every week is great!" they ALL said. I don't know why I was so surprised at the enthusiasm for meeting one hour a week with each other and with someone else's (NOT THAT FUN) mom! I'm so excited, I'm almost beside myself!

Allie prayed at the end (in the middle of McDonald's!) that they would all get to know God better and learn to live by His word. She did not seem to feel the need to pray that we'd have FUN. Maybe that will take care of itself...

I'm trying not to have big expectations, and yet...I know that this is something very special.

If any of you have done anything like this with teens, I would love to hear what worked or didn't work for you!

18 comments:

Rachel said...

I did the study "Every Young Woman's Battle" several years ago with a couple girls from our youth group. I really enjoyed it. You can also get a workbook to go with it. You are such an awesome mom. I pray that my daughter and I will be able to talk like that too when she gets older.

mholgate said...

I thought of the same book. "Every Young Woman's Battle." It is a study on the topic of purity.

Also, Joyce Meyers makes a great version of her "Battlefield of the Mind" for teens. I haven't done this study before, but I've done the original version and it's great.

My husband is a Youth Pastor. We haven't done studies with our own kids yet, but lots of them with teens. One of my favorites that is great for young ladies is Elizabeth George's "A Young Woman's Call to Prayer." She also has "A Young Woman after God's Own Heart."

Hope that helps. You've helped me time and again! : )

-Melissa

Sandy said...

We also live in a smaller, semi-rural Bible belt town. My friend Kelly does something like this every Friday night with a co-ed group they call Love Neighborhood. It's mostly friends of their children's from school and around their downtown neighborhood, and there are both churched and non-churched students. I'll have to ask her exactly what they study, but my sense is "whatever comes up." I know they've done some Bible studies together; sometimes they watch a popular video and talk about it from a spiritual perspective; sometimes she helps them prep for the ACT test! They always eat together, and often Love Neighborhood students will be at our church youth classes and other youth functions. I think it's become one night a week where they know they can get a hot meal with a real family, some Godly help with what's going on in their lives (boys, parents, school, whatever), some spiritual refocusing, and most of all, love. I'll ask Kelly what else she would add.

Susanne said...

How cool is that! And your girl initiated it. Haven't any ideas to help but would love to hear some when you get it going.

Kristin said...

Tears in my eyes.
Light at the end of my middle school aged tunnel.

Okay...I read this book once and said to myself, "If I ever lead a teen girl study I'll use THIS book." It's His Perfect Faithfulness by Eric & Leslie Ludy. It's their love story about how God brought them together in a courtship relationship. It's amazing. Not just about guy/girl stuff. Includes their testimonies, and a lot of parts will have the girls saying to themselves, "That's how I want to do it." or "I wish my (non-Christian) parents had done that for me."

joyceandnorm said...

That's great! The group is a wonderful idea. I wish I had that growing up. I don't have any ideas on the top of my head for the group...maybe something to do with Proverbs 31? Here's a book that I have that may be helpful for you called Growing Godly Women: A Christian Woman's Guide to Mentoring Teenage Girls.

http://www.amazon.com/Growing-Godly-Women-Christian-Mentoring/dp/1563097443/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1236319939&sr=1-5

Good luck and keep us updated.

Leigh said...

Laura, Orgjunkie.com has a post on today's blog linking to the reluctant entertainer. She does a group with teen girls and has some fabulous ideas. I read a couple there and they're easy to do but great lessons.

emily said...

Omigosh, I'm totally writing you an email.

Katherine, this is SO COOL!!! And you must be SO proud of Allie. What an amazing girl.

emily said...

Oh and PS you're totally fun!

emily said...

Oh Katherine this is just SO COOL!!!! Sorry, I'm just really excited. Those girls are going to be so impacted. YAY!

Becca~TimeWellSpent said...

How great is that! To see your daughter grow, mature in Christ and be an encourager to others PLUS want you there beside her. Is your heart not overflowing!!

Jen said...

Wow....how impressive your Allie..tell her I said...you go girl!
I will pray for you guys...

On a lighter note Miller and I started our herb garden this morning...fingers crossed..even 3 year old fingers...

JenniferLayne said...

Every 2 or 3 years, I lead a girls study (usually freshmen and sophomores) using the book "Passion & Purity" by Elisabeth Eliot. It's always been a really special time with the girls.

amy said...

I was a small group bible study leader for high school girls at my church for 8 years before my son was born. One consistently (and surprisingly) fun thing for the girls was to play the "name game" every single week. They'd have to say their name (even after 4 years of knowing each other) and then their high and low point from the week (or some other question, but high/low was a regular). It helped to start the same way, they liked the routine, and if there was ever a new person we already had the intros built in. We didn't actually play it as a game (where you had to go around and say all the names before you) just your own.

amy@flexibledreams

Mothership said...

I was in a group like that when I was a teen. My favorite things to do included training and preparation for adult/motherhood. I had a hope chest that was full by the time I was married. One treasure that will become an heirloom is an infant Christening Gown I made when I was 16. Each of my five have worn it.

Another uniting/fun/good thing to do is service. Raking leaves for an old lady and doing laundry for the new mother never was so much fun. We learn a lot about our Savior by doing His Work, ya' know?

amyglester@verizon.net said...

I was IN a group like this when I was in high school. I was a new Christian and the woman that poured her life into us was the single most influential person in my spiritual development. God will use you beyond what you can imagine.

TJ Wilson said...
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TJ Wilson said...

deleted above only bc I'm typing too fast to spell correctly - again... your blog is such an encouragement to me - thx for writing and sharing!