About this time I also start feeling the need to rein in the disorganization that creeps up on all of us as we are in "vacation mode."
I told you last week I'd take the second half of my friend's email (the first half was about activities). This half is mostly about getting organized when you are outnumbered and (most likely) outmaneuvered by your offspring:
Speaking of the home...I feel a little out of control here this summer. I got so used to having kids at school and being on routine, that we are the exact opposite of routine right now. It's like grasping at straw to get the kids to help out. I know I need to make up a chart (they are good with charts) for chores, or some type of system. I just don't know where to begin after the hand method. (Which worked very well for me, thanks!) You don't need to answer me via a long e-mail, but if you could guide me to a few of your posts on the subject, that would be great. I wish I could get my hands on a copy of that book you always talk about. :)Oh girl, have I ever been there. And yes, I have made lists of every kind (remember, before blogs there were JOURNALS). In fact, that's an excellent place to begin.
Needless to say, it's been a tough summer so far. I won't say that there haven't been great moments, because there have been! We have had lots of fun family time together. It's just that after a while the kids start getting on each others' nerves (and mine) and it's like we all need a time out from each other. Today I actually wished that there was some kind of re-set button where my house would magically be clean and organized, my children would be getting along, and I could start fresh. But there isn't, and I have to start where I am. Have you ever made a list of the things that are making you unhappy, and then tried to fix them, one at a time? Crazy, I know. I thought maybe I could pinpoint exactly what was bothering me.
Lately, for example, I have noticed that my usually-well-mannered youngest two (5 and 8) have been completely AWFUL in the car together. Obnoxious-awful. Hitting-awful (I know! I can't believe it, either!). This, from the two that normally play for hours at a time together.
One day it dawned on me (I'm SO SMART) that it all came down to something very simple: FOOD. Our willy-nilly summer schedule has taken its toll on them. The older kids fend for themselves, and I? Well, let's just say I
So imagine that. Routine (yet again) saves the day.
I think this is where those of us "moms in the middle," or veteran moms tend to run into trouble. The big kids are on one schedule, and - if truth be told - they ARE the schedule. Those poor little ones are running behind just as fast as their little pudgy legs can carry them. They try so hard to keep up. And we - when we see that they are falling behind - instead of slowing down, we pick them up and drag them along. And through it all, they are so easygoing.
To a point.
But they sure let you know when they reach that point, don't they (do I hear the brakes screeching??!). Like my girls who just needed a decent, regular meal. They told me by fighting in the car.
Well, rats. I have to go to a basketball game, speaking of dragging little ones along. I have lots of thoughts on this, because I know the frustration so many of you are experiencing, trying to find your stride when, well, you can't find the floor for the debris. For now, I'll leave you with an old post (which links to several even older posts). We can talk some more tomorrow.
How does your home operate?