Friday, November 05, 2010

The 30 year plan

I am back at school (for me, not the kids!) again this semester. Fall is always busy, so even though I only need 2 classes to graduate, as registration drew near, I realized they are a combined 9 (count 'em, NINE) hours. I knew I couldn't do that, work full-time, be a mom of five and still maintain my sanity (note I did not mention keep up with the laundry, because I couldn't do that even before I went back to work). So I chickened out decided to take just one.

Boy, am I glad.

It's been tough but manageable, except when it's, well, crazy, like this weekend when Allie-17 is supposed to go on a college preview weekend and all the other kids have their usual activities and I have a six page paper due. Sleep is definitely overrated.

The first assignment was a "professional development" paper that had us look back on our career and see where we've been, assess our strengths and weaknesses, and then make a 30-year plan of where we want to go.

(I use the term "career" loosely in my case of spotty work history due to constantly being pregnant for the better part of ten years and staying home for the better part of 16).

Anyway, I thought it would be a good idea to do a 30-year plan for wife-hood and motherhood, too. Thirty years puts most of us in the role of grandparents, which explains why grandparents are so darn smart. (It is often hard to remember that our parents were once as young and dumb as we are, and I believe it is often hard for them to remember it either!).

But I digress. Here's my rough draft:

A little over 1 year - Oldest graduates from high school. Kids now stretching from elementary to college. Go to camp and enjoy vacation with everyone all together. Sit around wondering how time flew. Keep gardening and volunteering in youth group.

5 years - Oldest two in college; next one is a senior. I will never get to quit my job now. First time not to have at least one child in elementary school. Oldest may be married and I may be a grandmother. Brush up on crocheting skills. Consider smaller house.

10 years - Oldest four graduated; last one is a junior. Will I really have an empty nest so soon? I'd better be a grandmother! Move to cottage in the country and start a new landscape from scratch. Become PTA president because I am holding on to youngest like crazy.

20 years - Empty nesters, visiting and/or enjoying kids coming home for holidays. Finally have a clean house. I'm not sure, but I think I will miss those fingerprints on my glass doors.

30 years - Dennis retires. We are now that cute little old definitely hip couple holding hands and drinking our free coffee at McDonalds hoping someone will ask us about our grandchildren.

Yup. Sounds like a good plan to me. I'd give me an "A."


jennibell said...

What a great idea! This didn't scare you. . .even a little? Don't know that I can THINK about it all yet. . .1 year, not too hard. . .2 in middle school, 2 in elementary. Five years. . .still not too bad. . .oldest will be a junior, youngest in 7th grade (oh! that was hard to write -- my oldest isn't even in 7th grade yet!). . .10 years one will be 21, another 20, another 18, and my "baby" will be 17. Think I'll stop there :)
Good luck with the school work -- I'm there with ya (except with one less child and minus the full-time job) but decided -- stupidly -- that I *could* do 9 hours this semester. . .should have spread it out a bit. I'm only blogging now to avoid an assignment due tomorrow. And, for the record, I sleep before some "necessities" sometimes. . .probably shouldn't admit that. . .as my husband keeps reminding me. . .one foot in front of the other. . .keep your eye on the finish line. . .

Anonymous said...

It's neat to think about the future...sometimes a little scary. In 30 years, I'll be my mom's age, so I better have lots of grandbabies. hehe

Susanne said...

Wow, I admire you taking all these courses while working full time and being a full time mom! The thought of a 30 year plan totally overwhelms me. I can't even think what to make for supper which is later that same day never mind 30 years from now. LOL.

Rachel said...

Wow! It's good to have plans though, and to know where you're headed. Glad you all are doing well.

bass family said...

I'd give you an "A" :)

Angela said...

My 30 year plan is on my Expo board- incase I want to erase and change some things. It's good to keep goals and I like to hang it somewhere close by so I can glance at it every now and then! I purchased another whiteboard the other day and got free markers with it! Good Luck with everything!