Comments on Raising Five: Start with a question

Smart brother! And smart mom for getting his opin...

2008-08-09T06:22:00.000-05:00

Smart brother! And smart mom for getting his opinion!

I love the text you used - if we could just ingrain it into our own minds as well as our kids!

Good for Neal for being so intuitive. Good for yo...

2008-07-29T09:45:00.000-05:00

Good for Neal for being so intuitive. Good for you for asking him and taking his advice. I pray that your conversation goes well when she gets back.

At least you evaluated first. I try to do that alo...

2008-07-28T07:53:00.000-05:00

At least you evaluated first. I try to do that alot...look back and think before reacting..I used to just fly off the handle. I think it comes with growing up and maturing. We still are you know.

Teaching and coaching to make appropriate choices ...

2008-07-27T21:09:00.000-05:00

Teaching and coaching to make appropriate choices is much harder than just issuing rules and guidelines. Awesome post. I love love your blog.

Well done! I hope I an dothe right thing when my k...

2008-07-27T14:48:00.000-05:00

Well done! I hope I an dothe right thing when my kids are that age!!

This is such great advice, Katherine. My first ins...

2008-07-27T14:41:00.000-05:00

This is such great advice, Katherine. My first instinct is always to jump in with a lecture, but your approach was so much better. With Camden only 9 years old, we haven't had to worry about music too much yet, but I know it will be an issue (along with movies, the computer, etc.) and something I need to continually be aware of.

It's hard backing off sometimes and giving your ki...

2008-07-26T20:03:00.000-05:00

It's hard backing off sometimes and giving your kid the benefit of the doubt, isn't it? I'm so glad to have read this - it gives me an idea of how to handle similar situations in a few years with my own kids!

This is good for me to read. While my children are...

2008-07-26T17:41:00.000-05:00

This is good for me to read. While my children are young and music isn't our issue~yet, I have a tendancy to me the one drawing a line in the sand. I have no doubt that as kids approach their teen years some understanding from mom and dad and willingness to talk rather than to lectur have far more beneficial results. I love reading how you handle things! Good posts to refer to in the years ahead.

At what age do you let them buy their own music wi...

2008-07-26T16:50:00.000-05:00

At what age do you let them buy their own music without you? Seriously, what's realistic. Looking from the age of 7 year old children. :) God Bless.

Even some of the stuff on Radio Disney is not that...

2008-07-25T19:44:00.000-05:00

Even some of the stuff on Radio Disney is not that great. They have a "clean" radio version for the kids, but then the kids want to buy the actual album from the artist. I used to teach Pre-K and one of the kids brought in a CD with "explicit" lyrics on it, but I'm not sure if the parents realized that because they play it on Disney and all the kids know it and sing the clean lyrics. Anyhow, one of my coworkers played it on the radio because the girl asked. I heard it, and told her that it's not appropriate. She didn't know about the "explicit" on the CD either.

Thanks for this practical advice told through a st...

2008-07-25T18:44:00.000-05:00

Thanks for this practical advice told through a story.
That's extending grace....
to Abby, and to us.
I think you're awesome, K. :)

Love this. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has ...

2008-07-25T18:35:00.000-05:00

Love this. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has almost sent an angry missive in the guise of a text message. Good for you for taking a step back and keeping those "talking" doors open.

Music is such a huge issue. And like you said sometimes they really don't know better. What I find hard is when I find some of the "Christian" stuff questionable. Is it just my own taste that's disliking the style or am I picking up on something?

Loved this post and know all about how much work i...

2008-07-25T16:34:00.000-05:00

Loved this post and know all about how much work it is to keep up with what's on whose i-pods. It's exhausting, that's what!

Thanks!

Thanks you so much for the timely post! We have 1...

2008-07-25T16:09:00.000-05:00

Thanks you so much for the timely post! We have 13-year old twins and are rapidly approaching the music world where Allie is at ... and I would definitely have a tendency to overreact if I found "un-edifying" music in their possession. Thank you for the reminder that, sometimes, they just don't know better. I always overestimate what they should know and expect them to make mature decisions, when, in fact, they are only 13!!

By the way, it has been so good to have you back blogging more regularly... I followed you throughout your move and read all your "in-progress" updates. Your house looks fabulous!!

You are so wise! I hope I remember to take a step...

2008-07-25T15:58:00.000-05:00

You are so wise! I hope I remember to take a step back and be mindful of my approach when my kids are a bit older.
Thanks for the post, it made me think! :0)

Give them Bach. :)

2008-07-25T15:18:00.000-05:00

Give them Bach. :)

What a refreshing read! So many "christians" don'...

2008-07-25T14:48:00.000-05:00

What a refreshing read! So many "christians" don't find many "worldly" music wrong. Many feel it's ok, it's only words. And many come back w/don't you watch xyz?

What they fail to realize is that words have POWER. power to create thoughts, feelings etc. Some good some bad.

Thank you for raising your children to be mindful of what they LISTEN to.